My mother-in-law passed away almost 2 months ago, and that was a big adjustment to our family. She was a very loved person. I think when big events happen you tend to look at things a little differently… My husband had a very strange dream just before he woke last week. It was his mother talking to him on the phone. He said it was ringing and the letters ADC and a few other numbers came up on the screen. Since then we’ve discovered that ADC stands for After Death Communication. It was a sign… It totally blew our minds that day. We really just stood still and paused for a good few hours. My husband has also been unwell, and this message from his Mum really lifted his spirits. I could see it straight away. He said he felt ok with everything now, he feels like the world is the way it’s supposed to be. He’s grateful for that message which came through.
My boys keep growing and new challenges for our family are coming thick and fast. It’s just that we’re entering new phases all the time. I have one teenager and changes are happening for him, physically and emotionally. He is learning new lessons about life all the time. He’s getting knocked back, then picked up, then knocked back… not in a bad way – he’s just learning how the world works. I had a chat with him the other night about how I am learning too because I’ve never had an almost-14 year old to deal with, so we’re all just trying to work it out together. The conversations I have with him are also teaching myself about resilience. Maybe that’s why we have kids? To re-learn some lessons about life!? I am so grateful for my little people. They are pretty awesome. They are so busy and happy and we have a heap of fun together. I get myself so involved in their activities and I love every minute of it. People think I am crazy because I “give up my weekends”. But I think people are crazy not to. They are only with you for a short period of time and one day when they are off with their own girlfriends and sleeping off a hang over I’ll be longing for these years again. I don’t think twice about “my” Saturday and Sunday. I want to share it with them.
You’d think having 3 boys they’d all be the same, but they’re not. Whilst they all like to do the same things, their personalities are so different. My eldest just wants to do well and please everyone. He doesn’t do confrontation. My middle one is so clever but he hates praise. He’ll think of excuses constantly and will argue with everything you say. My little one is a bit lazy but so sarcastic and drops a one-liner like nobody’s business. But they’re all rough as guts and typical boys. If there is anything happening with footy (any code!), camping/fishing or cricket – they’re in.
Me? I’m struggling with a little big of direction lately. I do this all the time, probably twice a year. I know where I want to go, it’s just hard to get there and keep going! This freelance gig is tough, but I wouldn’t change it – I just need to streamline it I think. I have so many new ideas running around in my head all the time and because I am a one-man-band it’s hard to execute all of these things. Last week I met with a group of bloggers and I loved it. I think that’s what I need to do more of – get out and about! That might be something new I need to work on.
I am so well (medically) at the moment though. I haven’t been this well for a long time. I am usually sick somewhere in a 12 month cycle, but lately I’ve been pretty good. That’s such a nice feeling! Normally I have a hospital visit at least every year, but did you know I have not had a sleep in hospital since Easter LAST year?! That’s over 18 months. I am so grateful for that. And because I have been so well lately I know I have achieved a lot of stuff around my house and on this blog that normally I’d fall behind on. Touch wood it stays this way!
Things are so good when you’re just plodding along, making time for the things and people you love, with no records being broken. If it’s busy and crazy and messy then that’s ok too. If it works, then don’t feel bad about anything.
It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop. – Confucius.
Love that quote above.
Things are great here. How about you? x