When the kids grow up a bit

I have really been enjoying the past couple of weeks. Put the whole Christmas hoo-hah aside it’s been a nice time around my house lately. My husband is off work, the kids haven’t had activities galore and no one really wants anything from me. Is this what I’ve been waiting for? You know… When the kids grow up a bit.

My husband and I have been shopping, getting food, buying coffees, going to Bunnings AND watching Netflix together BY OURSELVES in the MIDDLE of the day. Yes, I’m yelling! What is this new thing happening??? We jumped in to bed at 2.30pm yesterday to finish a Netflix series we’d been watching and we had a good laugh because it kind of felt weird to be doing that, but we didn’t feel guilty. The kids have been slobbing around, getting their own food and doing their own activities (mainly laying on the couches – which I am fine with because I know they too need a rest).

The brakes are well and truly on at our house this week. And I freaking love it. We’re going slow, we’re all talking about nothing and everything at the same time, and actually enjoying each other’s company. Ask me again next week how we’re all travelling when we head away for a week of cricket and we’re all staying in a tiny motel room together… I may change my tune then! 😉

But seriously, when you stop do you look back and wonder why the time has gone so quick?? I’ll tell you why, because we all do too much. I’m guilty of that. My husband asked me the other day what my new year resolution might be? I said I don’t have one. I’m not making goals and plans this year. I don’t want to. I just want to live in the moment, be happy, be grateful and deal with whatever is in front of me that day. I don’t really care what 2018 throws at me. I know I have a big operation coming up so I have no personal goals except to get through it and deal with whatever else the year throws at me.

So here are my people. They are growing up! When they are happy I am happy. I have one getting a licence and another is off to high school. I will also be married to that boofhead for 18 years this year. I am enjoying the fact the kids are becoming more self sufficient.

Just before Christmas we watched old home movies I’d recorded. They even watched our wedding. It was the best! My eldest particularly loved it (because he featured a lot – hello 1st child haha). He did actually comment on how much we played with him, how many toys he had and he remembered lots of little holidays we went on. I think this was good for him to see. I said “I spent all of my 20s having babies, and loving you, and playing with you and being with you every day.” And when I watched them back too I remembered so many hard days. I was tired, very busy (but very bored in a monotonous kind of way) and we didn’t have a whole lot. But we did make it work.

So if you have little kids, I promise it does get easier. They grow and they change. They need you less physically, but they need you more mentally. They need you to be happy and that’s all I’ll worry about this year. ♥ KC.


  • Cheryl Moffatt

    That was really lovely to read Katrina .. and I’m with you, no new years resolutions .. just going to enjoy everyday loving life and my family ..

  • Jenni Eyles

    Great read. Mine are now 19 and 22 and the eldest left the nest last year. Now I desperately grab any minutes I can together

  • Amber Jayne

    Love it. You sound happy and relaxed. I hope that continues for you and your fam bam

  • Jacqueline Warrick

    Lovely read, my boys are now 11, 13 and 15, they are very independent, constantly off around town on their bikes, swimming down the river with mates. The hardest parenting tasks at the moment are getting them off the screens and nagging them to shower (when they finally do get in, they won’t get out )
    We are camping in the Grampians at the moment, enjoying some family time before the 15 year old heads to Denmark as an exchange student for a year in 9 sleeps

  • Michelle Harvey

    Totally agree , we have rarely had babysitters so its always just been us four , my youngest turned 13 not long ago so we thought they’re old enough now for us to have a night out and see a friends band , it was so good lol . My 15 year old son says ….. Is this going to become a habit ? My hubby said …. It just might !

    • Katrina Chambers

      We did the same before Christmas! We were home by 11pm and I had pre-ordered them pizzas to be delivered. Was lovely night!

  • Sarah Drago

    Great post – my three are 5,2 & 3 months!! Looking forward to a bit more sleep in a few years

  • Ness Lockyer

    We’ve just started going to Bunnings and for a coffee on our own, as our boys are about the same ages. It feels weird to not have them constantly with you. It’s good, but it’s not in the same breath. After years of them constantly by my side, I almost feel like I’m becoming redundant some days. That’s the part I most struggle with about it all.

  • Lucy Quartermain

    I remember doing parenting classes with you and now our babies are turning 16. Where has the time gone

  • Alison

    Happy New Year Katrina! I think all of us who read your blog wish you nothing but the very best for 2018. You have a wonderful attitude and that combined with your family will carry you through the year.
    Thank you for the heartfelt post.

  • Katrina Messervy

    We are at the same stage now with our 3. Sooooo good and so worth all of the hard work and sacrifice

  • Bec Senyard

    Love this post. My three are 7, 4 and 3 at the moment and I’m still needed for most things, but as they have gotten older, I’ve enjoyed the smallest steps of independence – like no longer needing to do nappies. I always remind myself to be grateful for the season we’re in because it does go fast. Wishing you a great 2018 and I do hope your operation goes well. xx

  • Kirrily Burton

    Loved it, living in the moment is so important to remember. It all goes by so fast!

    • Katrina Chambers

      It’ll happen one day Caz! I think you’ll be busy for a little while yet

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