I have 3 school aged boys and I know the day will come soon when the eldest will start pestering me for an email account and facebook.
Luckily, I haven’t had to deal with any of that yet. It frightens me though. It’s probably something I can’t control. I can lay down all the ground rules, monitor their usage, and do everything within my power to make sure they stay safe. But at the end of the day, social media is a powerful weapon and can turn on you in a second.
Social media is becoming more augmentative and opinionated. No longer is it just a means for fun, networking and reading. People have strong opinions and people are far too brave for my liking.
I’ve had a few instances lately where I am tweeting away (I thought I was tweeting fun, flippant and mindless stuff), but have been sent back tweets from people I don’t know arguing with me. I never respond. I’m not here to argue. That’s my motto.
So I’ve had some preliminary talks with my boys about the internet. I’ve been doing these talks for about 12 months. I’ve been mentioning a few instances where I’ve had a rough run and explaining to them how I felt and what effect it has on me. Basically I want them to know that they are never ever to say unkind things, argue or abuse anyone from behind a computer screen.
I want them to know that working on the internet is not always a happy place. I want them to know what it means to me when someone says something to hurt my feelings. I want them to see that just because you’re not face to face saying awful things to them, doesn’t excuse it or soften the blow if you say it from behind a computer screen. In our house, the same rules apply in the school playground as they will on the internet.
My boys know all about what I do on here everyday. They know I blog and design blogs. They know twitter is my networking source and is how I get to meet more people. They know I’m not always happy about it too. My husband reads everything. I share it with him. I tell him all about my ups and downs. My Mum and Dad read my blog. It’s not a place I come to argue or be opinionated. My parents always taught me to play nice in real life, so I’m doing that here too. Imagine if they sat down to read my twitter and saw I was abusing someone. Horrified.
For now, I am encourging my kids to be outside kids, like we used to be when we were growing up. I want them to be confident, hard working and realise nothing comes for free. Life has choices and the motivation to make things happen comes from within. No one will give you a free ride.
My husband and I spend most Friday nights pumping our boys up about their footy games on Saturday morning. It’s become a bit of fun. We laugh, talk tactics and really motivate them. I just want to see them try hard at everything. I don’t want them to be the best at it, just be committed and motivated. I don’t want my boys to be lazy and whingers.
Here they are playing their favourite sport. I love watching them shine. I stand on the sideline giving them encouragement, cheering for them, motivating them…
I just want them to know life can be tough, but so very rewarding. Be nice, work hard and be motivated. I want them to carry these manifestos through life.
Like real life, social media can be cruel, but let’s not allow the online world to have 1 set of rules and real life another. Teach good principles now and pray to god your kids carry that with them through life.
The use of social media is just around the corner for these boys… and it scares the crap out of me!
What do your kids know about your social media use and experiences?