We’re all exactly the same, just at different times

I spend a fair bit of time on the internet (surprise, surprise), so I am watching, listening and reading about people more than ever…

I am seeing people in certain categories at different times, but we’re all in and out of those categories. The cycle of life is pretty much the same for everyone, it’s just that being online so often gives you the chance to manipulate, or express the persona you choose (and at which time suits you).

I’m talking in riddles aren’t I?

Over the last week or so I’ve been watching and reading blogs and twitter streams. Yesterday Woogsworld wrote about her stress. I watched a twitter conversation unfold about Sarah Wilson and this blog post.

Specifically is was Mrs Woog’s quote “like a lot of people, the life you live when written out on paper, seems fairly idyllic” which had me thinking. YES, we can make our lives look as idyllic as we like when using social media. BUT, we have to know that EVERYBODY does it at some stage.

Heck, I do it.

Everyone is struggling with something at some stage in their lives… stress, anxiety, depression, jealousy, failure…

I am in the same boat as everyone else, but I like to give you my positive side because mostly I am positive and happy… BUT…

I am not going to tell you about the person who is having an affair or tell you about the person I know who struggles with their health. Or the marriage that is suffering down the road. Or the big fight I had with my husband, or the entire day a few weeks ago that I spent in bed ignoring my children because I had some serious anxiety that I couldn’t control, or about the person I know who has food issues, or needs to lose weight, or is self-sabotaging their own life… they’re all people around me.

BUT I will tell you that no matter what, we are all going through exactly the same things – just at different times.

So when you’re stressed, someone else isn’t. You can see that non-stressed person online enjoying that glorious overseas holiday. You’re feeling a little jealous and angry. I know, I do it too. However, it’s SO important to tell yourself, that that person deserves the holiday BECAUSE life goes through stages. Stress may be with you now, but with them later. Your turn for a holiday will come… Mrs Woog was talking about the ladies running past her house looking all fit and happy, but like everyone else, they go home to their own issues.

When you feel anxious, you have to remind yourself that you can pull yourself out of it. Because the person you’re envying on Facebook will feel the same as you at some stage. It’s all about the cycle of life and how we manage those down times. 🙂

I am just like everyone else. Battling my own issues, but I am mainly positive about them. I know that no matter what, the sun will shine again. It always does. I am a positive person. Therefore, I choose to give you a lot of feel-good stuff. I am not down on myself and I give myself a break when needed.

So, if you’re feeling down, anxious, stressed and worried, you need to switch your thinking. You need to look at those people who express the “idyllic” life and know in your heart that you can have that too. AND they get just as stressed and down as you sometimes!

We’re all human. We all feel. Nothing is always as rosey at it seems all of the time! 🙂

I still want you to share your feelings. I would hate for you to think you have to bottle everything up. Recently I have learnt that bottling things up only makes it worse. I am grateful Mrs Woog wrote her blog post. She is a good sharer. I know she will feel better for sharing and her readers will also be given the chance to share their feelings. We all need to talk and vent our frustrations and we all need to NOT be judged.

Now, go forward. Onwards and upwards! X

Happy Hump Day! We have 22 degrees predicted here today. I am already doing cartwheels and stripping sheets off beds! 😉

21 comments

  • Life Living

    Well said, we do all have our own issues, but in our never ending quest to be ‘ideal’ so many of us never talk about the bad/difficult times. Thank you for writing this post Katrina, it’s this kind of honesty that makes us feel normal and less isolated. Xxxx

    • Katrina (author)

      Hope you have a great day. X

  • Helen Jaman

    Thank you for raising the ‘reality’ – many need to read it and for those that are aware of it, need to be reminded of it. Reading this reinforced that I am human and its ok to have these times and reminded me I am not the only one – so thank you – I always try and focus on the positive – its what gets me through 🙂 On the note of weather …. Spring is in the year I can smell it ! (running and kicking my heels together in the air) Have a fab day !! Hx

  • Chrissie

    Wow!!!! That is way too deep…..my advice would be; spend a week away from social media that is; away from twitter, facebook, blogging etc, and spend more time with your family, children and doing the small things that most people enjoy…..it sounds to me like you have been consumed by too much social media and what everyone else is doing……I wonder if you would experience less anxiety attacks and avoiding days in bed stressing if you said NO to social media for a week.

    I really feel for you…I really do….I’m saddened that your life revolves around constant need for twitter, and social media….perhaps if we all spend less time reading other people’s life stories, and putting that effort into our own lives…..we may all be a little more content????? Dunno……but that’s my opinion!!!!!!!

    • Katrina (author)

      Sorry you missed the point of the blog post Chrissie. Obviously you took away from it the one day I wasn’t well (not due to social media). Anyway, I work from home and my job IS social media. I am 100% with my kids every single day. The post was a motivational post – not a post about some “issues” you think I have – which I don’t. Anyway, have a fabulous day! X

    • MM

      Wow – that is a little harsh Chrissie. It seems like what has been stressing Katrina out is what’s going on in her real life and not her social media life. She was having sympathy for people who have had the bad end of the stick with social media and not her personally. I agree social medie has bad point but you take from it what you want. I agree everyone is entitled to their own opinion but not when you jump to conclusions!

  • Chrissie

    Totally understanding what you are saying Katrina……..and I appreciate your comment……..I do understand that your work is online based, and I’d never assume your anxiety was social media related and I respect that you had an off day…..I just much prefer to read wonderful, exciting things you are doing, your great craft ideas etc….I found this blog post today a little awkward and I did feel a little embarrassed for you, your hubby and kiddies……but I appreciate your rawness and honesty that your life is far from perfect…and that Katrina from the Block is just a normal mother struggling with life issues!!!!

    Ps…thanks for motivating me to wash me sheets too today!!!

    • Katrina (author)

      No need to feel embarrassed for me. This is my blog, not a public forum. If you’re uncomfortable, come back tomorrow 🙂 My husband reads this and so does my Mum so I am ok with it all. If I was worried, I wouldn’t have hit publish.
      Enjoy your day! X

  • A-M

    I don’t see this as an just an online issue. It’s life in general. We like to share the best bits of our lives. I certainly do. That’s most likely going to make someone jealous in some way. It’s human nature. That’s not to say that there is no heartache behind the scenes at times. It’s your choice whether you want to share it or not. I still draw on that comment you made in one of your posts way back, “everyone has their own **** to deal with”. We all do. I keep that in mind every time I press delete on my relentless troll’s comments. Maybe it is the only way they can deal with their own **** Great post. A-M xx

    • Katrina (author)

      Yes, this is not an online issue – it’s just life! I just wanted to write about it today and make people feel good and feel ok with their issues. I wouldn’t be human if I was ridiculously happy every second of the day. Could you imagine! haha! When I feel down I ring Mel and vomit out all my rubbish and then she tells me to eat a bag of lollies and watch Modern Family. Best cure!

  • A-M

    sorry for typos. in a hurry! at a conference. xx

  • Ruth BT

    Well said Katrina. Life is all about cycles. I recently met someone who is in a lot of pain and consequently painful to be around BUT realised a few years ago she was me! We all need to take a breath and put things into perspective and like you I try to find the positive, the upside instead of looking at the world with a glass half full. Thank you for sharing.

    • Katrina (author)

      You’re welcome. I am constantly trying to see things in a positive light. And I try to be as empathetic as I can. When I am having a bad day I eat a bag of lollies and watch rubbish tv – always fixes me up! Haha.

  • Sarah

    Thanks for a great post & a very timely reminder Katrina. Happy hump day to you too

    • Katrina (author)

      You’re welcome!

  • Helen Jaman

    Can I have Mel’s number ? 😉 x

    • Katrina (author)

      Hell yeah! She’s pretty good. She’s on twitter and instagram – muttsy101. X

  • Ali

    Awesome post Katrina – true, raw and you raised points that so many people think are best unspoken about! I love the diversity of topics you cover on here – one of the many reasons I keep coming back! Keep up the awesome writing 😉 I too am soaking up the sun on this glorious Wagga day! X

  • Bronnie

    Love it! love it! love it! you have been my sunshine when I have had “stuff’ going on. A gorgeous post about life and a reminder that everyone has ‘stuff’ to deal with, it is how you deal with it that matters. Doesn’t the sun shining make you feel so much better.

    • Katrina (author)

      Thanks Bronnie! So kind 🙂
      Yes it’s how you deal with the ‘stuff’ that matters – love that! X

  • Natasha Hansen

    Lovely post Katrina, something to think about for me here.

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